Showing posts with label fair. Show all posts
Showing posts with label fair. Show all posts

Thursday, 31 December 2015

What's He Like?

He's attractive, good looking, smart and funny. He is charming and one of those guys who flirts with the world. Sometimes I think he is too charming. That it all comes too easily. Women adore him. Yeah one of those guys; you hate him already don't you?

He's not a guy I just met. He's actually the man who first explained to me that guys would like a girl who was submissive; who wanted to do what they said and please them with it.

He explained that that there were dominants and submissives; that he was one and I was the other. I guess I knew most of that before he said it. I know that I knew what BDSM was, and that I liked reading it. I know I knew I liked pleasing men. It had just never occurred to me before that moment that I was a submissive.

And then... it seemed complicated. Giving up power. Why would I give it, and what would I get in return? Sometimes it still seems complicated? Is it fair? Do I care about fair? Shouldn't fair be part of the equation somehow?

And then other times it seems irrelevant and I just want to please. Did I mention he's charming?